Since When Did Kissing Become A Sin?

Since When Did Kissing Become A Sin? 

For everyone who thinks kissing for Christians is wrong, tell me, how can kissing be classified as a sin? Hmmm, since when? Where does it say in the bible that kissing is a sin? Well, to be honest (and this is just MY opinion) I don't see anything wrong with it. That might be your area of weakness but not mine, I have control over myself. You're probably just weak in your flesh, that's why it seems so wrong to you. . . . . . . . . . . . .*Tires come to a screeching halt*. All you super saved saints probably thinking I done went crazy. Well don't, cause I'm on ya'll side. YES! Kissing my friend indeed is a sin (before marriage of course). Sorry¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Above are statements/questions I normally get from people or over hear in conversations. How in the world is kissing a sin? I mean, its not like you're having sex right? WRONG! As far as God is concerned PURITY is a MUST. Over the years purity has received a lame nun-like reputation. So before I get down to the nitty gritty of why kissing is a sin, I want to focus on what purity is and why its such a BEAUTIFUL thing. 

The Beauty of Purity  

Purity by definition alone means: Freedom from adulteration or contamination.

The words "freedom from contamination" is what really stands out for me because that is EXACTLY what purity is. Being free from contamination and defilement. The culture of this world has done a great job at making purity seem sooooo WACK! Everywhere you go, everything that's on the big screens and on the internet is laced with lust and and premature intimacy. I compare purity to water in its most purified form. Crystal clear and FRESH. When that water however starts to become contaminated from multiple people dipping into it, what color does it start to turn? What happens to fresh water when its left out in the open with NO covering? You mean to tell me you'll still drink water that multiple people dipped in and that has all types of floaty thingy's in it? (lol I said thingy's). Ok, back to being serious! So yea, basically would you drink contaminated water? If you're truly human, I think NOT! Well thats what happens to our soul. Contamination (impurity) is a grimy sticky film that coats your soul in the spiritual realm. Your soul consist of your emotions and your will. And when your soul is contaminated, so is the way you think and how you feel. Its no wonder the world thinks purity is lame, and feel there's absolutely nothing wrong with having sex before marriage (forget about kissing cause they BEEN threw that out the window going 100mph). I don't care who you are, EVERYONE prefers a brand-new gift rather than a used one. The bible states the EVERY good and PERFECT gift comes from above. And that's exactly what purity is. Its a perfect uncontaminated gift from God that Hes given each of us to put into practice that we might be able to enjoy ecstasy and intimacy to its ENTIRETY under the covering of marriage. The culture today promotes hooking up and random nights filled with passion as freedom. But in all actuality the "freedom" the world has to offer is really freedom to self destruct. Freedom to have no moral standards. Freedom to constantly feel incomplete and empty. Freedom to give a piece of your self away for free with no type of commitment or sacrifice. The freedom to give unworthy people access to whats most precious, only to have them spit in your face and turn around with deuces in the air for you to look at. The freedom to be a soul full of holes that's unable to be patched. Do we really think that was Gods original plan for our lives as He watched our parents cradled us in their arms? Was that His plan when He decided to send heavens BEST (Jesus) to die on the cross for us? The bible states "out of your belly shall flow rivers of living water" John7:38, which spiritually indicates the core of your being. Earlier I compared purity to water. If the core of your being (in this contexts) is like rivers of living water, then what kind of river are you? Are you spring fresh pure? Or are you salt lake swampy? Think about it! . . . . With that being said, lets talk about how kissing is a sin shall we *\^_^/*

The Sin of Kissing

Kissing is not something your lips just automatically do when it sees people. Its a desire that comes from your emotions (heart), not your brain.The root of all evil is rooted in your soul (sinful nature) if you really look at it. All of our wrong decisions were always controlled by how we felt and our willingness to act upon how we felt. There are 3 reasons why kissing  outside of marriage is a sin. 

          

          1. It stimulates youthful lust: The word of God in 2Timothy 2:22 is clear on fleeing away from anything that stimulates lust. Lust is a sin, and you dont need to be saved to know that either. Kissing as we all know it is classified as FOREPALY. No if's, and's or but's about it! No one kisses just because they like the way someones spit taste. You kiss because there is a intimate fantasy of where that kiss will end up leading you. Its a stimulator for intimacy. And premarital intimacy, is just as wrong as premarital sex in the eyes of God. It perverts the true meaning of purity for intimacy.

          2. You're trespassing and violating the body of a person that does not rightfully belong to you. If you are not married to the person, they don't belong to you. POINT, BLANK, PERIOD! Everyone you see whether saved or not, came from God. And Jesus came to die for everyone who would come and accept Him. 1Corinthians 6:20 states "for God bought you with a high price (the blood of Jesus). So you must honor God with your body". You were not crucified for the person, so you do not have the legal right to touch that person in such a manner. They were made in the image of God and only covenant commitment (marriage) gives you such rights. The bible says "each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband", notice it did not say "girlfriend or boyfriend". So if you are not married to the person, keep your paws and lips OFF!

          3. Your body (including your lips) is the modern day temple for the Holy Spirit. I said earlier that no one belongs to you unless you are married to them, but even YOU don't belong to YOU because YOU didn't die on the cross for yourself either. The bible states in 1Corinthians 6:19 "Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself". This is not some "slave I own you do as I say right now or you'll die because I'm your master" type of stuff, this is just the displayed love of a Father who knows BETTER than we do the consequences of premarital intimacy, so He places certain guidelines until we're ready. A loving parent wont give the keys to the car to their 12yr old just because the child think they're ready to drive. No, they'll give the keys to the child when he/she is 1st mature enough, and 2nd has the appropriate license. The Holy Spirit (if you are a born again believer) lives in you to guide and protect you into ALL truths. So when you open up doors to lust, you not only sin against yourself but you also sin against the Holy Spirit.  

Just Wait For it

So you see, kissing in and of itself is NOT wrong. It's only wrong when its done premaritally. To the world "Don't start nothing you cant finish" is taken as a seductive challenge.  But for single/engaged Christians "Don't start nothing you cant finish" is to be taken as a warning. Don't spark a fire that will eventually grow to big to put out. Kissing is just that spark, and all you need is the match. So don't even play with fire if you're not looking to get burnt. Give your future spouse something to value. Kissing might not seem as anything sacred or special now a days, but it is. And as crazy as this may sound, people will have sex with anyone before they kiss just anyone. So instead of just thinking by keeping your pants up and legs close, you're practicing purity, how about you head to toe put it in to practice: What you think about, what you watch, what you say, your motives, your body and where you go. I don't know about the rest of you all, but I want my husband to KNOW I respected, loved, and thought of him even before I knew him by keeping my spirit, body and soul pure not only before the Lord, but reserved for him. There is beauty in intimacy when its pure don't you agree?

Saved Hater Friends? OH MY!

Saved Hater Friends? OH MY! 

So I felt the need to address this hate thing that goes on within the Christian community that NO ONE wants to talk about. And the ones who do talk about it are normally the ones that are still bitter, so it often times come out wrong. Id like to 1st state that I to have been (long long ago), a hater *bows head in past shame*. BUT, to my glory I no longer am one (thanks to God) *harlem shakes*. What is a Saved Hater Friend? For many of us, to even say we have "haters" just sounds so uncomfortable, worldly, and just down right G-H-E-TT-O "I got hata's ya'll". BUT, if we be truthfully honest here, haters DO EXIST. In the world and sadly to say, in the body of Christ (the Church). The haters I want to address here are not the ones in the world, but the ones IN the church. I'm talking about the "super saved, tongue talking, always slain in the spirit if you just blow on them", haters. We all know that there are only 2 types of haters in this life: the one that just publicly no shame shows they don't like you or anything you do, and the one that's your friend (or acts like it) that is secretly intimidated by your success. So what exactly is a Saved Hater Friend? How do you identify if you might have one (or in some cases, MANY) in your own circle? How do you confront a Saved Hater Friend without looking like you're causing strife or discord? (Cause a hater friend will ALWAYS act like they're oblivious to their own hate, thus making you seem like you're crazy or causing unnecessary drama lol). So lets get started shall we. . . . . . . . . 

What is a Saved Hater Friend? 

 

Its obviously someone who is saved and someone who you consider a friend. What makes a Saved Hater Friend different from a regular hater friend is the fact that they have a relationship with Jesus, meaning they should know better because He commissioned us to love one another and not hate, right? RIGHT! A Saved Hater Friend is someone who consciously or subconsciously is jealous of your overall progression (whether that be spiritually, financially, or naturally). They are VERY well aware of everything you are working on or working towards, HOWEVER, they will never compliment you on any of it.When they do decide to compliment you its 9 X's out of 10 because you mentioned it, so without wanting to expose how they REALLY feel, they have no choice but to say "Oh yea, I seen that. Good job" (sounding all dry). A hater cant control their "hate" (jealousy). And especially if they have to be a friend to you, it eats up at them. 

How do you identify a Saved Hater Friend?

  

There's 3 main things a hater friend will ALWAYS do. . . . 

1. They will hardly (close to never) congratulate, acknowledge, or affirm. 
2. If in a group setting and someone else compliments you, they (in a "joking" way) will point out your flaw(s) to undermine the compliment you just received. 
3. They're the least likely to encourage you to step out on faith with your crazy ideas and dreams because they have talked themselves out of stepping out on crazy faith, so they're trying to stop you as well. 

That pretty much sums it up. It really isnt hard to identify one. But one thing I would like to point out; a Saved Hater Friend is not a "frenemie". This is a person that actually likes/loves you. BUT, its in the area that you are either stronger or more talented/gifted in then they are that creates the friction for them. Why? because of insecurity (which none of us can say we didn't have).  Jealousy plays a MAJOR role in being a hater. The bible says "Jealousy is like cancer in the bones" - Proverbs 14:30. And just like cancer, a hater can not control it (if you've ever been a hater, then you KNOW what I'm talmbout lol). Hating is 100% likely to happen in someone who lacks identity of who God specifically created THEM to be, and what He specifically created THEM to accomplish. So in all actuality, they want what you have: Identity and Purpose.

 How do you confront a Saved Hater Friend? 

By now you probably was reading and could name a few hater friends like "yeaaaa, I KNEW so an so was a hata". But the most important part you probably forgot to do was identify if YOU TOO are a hater, (that's that log in the eye Jesus was talking about lol). I'm a firm believer that you can not confront an issue if you have not first checked and confronted it within yourself. If you're anything like how I used to be, calling people out in the middle of an confrontation was BLISS for me. I loved every second of saying in the midst of an argument "I knew it! I knew you was jealous! You just JEALOUS!". It wasn't until I got a revelation on how the Kingdom of God REALLY operates that I was able to change how I confront "haters". So how do we confront them?. . . . . . .You don't! As crazy as that may sound (and to your flesh it doesn't want to make sense), that's how the Kingdom of God operates. Our weapons are not carnal. We don't quarrel as believers arguing with one another, especially on a topic like this. Now I'm not saying that you should NEVER confront people (because confrontation is necessary at the appropriate timing for clarity). I'm saying instead, you PRAY for them first. Prayer sounds so cliche, especially when you find out a close friend is hating on you, cause your flesh wants to confront them (really to bring "conviction") like "I thought you was my friend? You're suppose to be happy for me! I thought you was saved?". That is why we ought to pray for them. Prayer is POWERFUL. When you genuinely pray for that person or those people, it protects and guards your heart from ill emotions that can form towards those individuals that the bible warns us about. It also causes the Holy Spirit to move on your behalf on the heart of the individual(s) to bring conviction. My personal testimony: when I was newly saved (a babe in Christ), because of my hunger and thirst for more of God, I began to grow at an expedient rate spiritually. There was a few individuals that grew a little indignant towards me like "who do she think she is? She just got saved. She thinks she knows it all! I been saved longer than her and she think she can teach me?!". When I would pick up on that, instead of confronting them the way I normally would've done when I wasn't saved, I just prayed for them because I didn't want hate to grow in my heart. Sure enough, God moved on my behalf. Some of those individuals hearts grew soft and they began to confess how they really felt. Now we're some of the closet friends. You see how God moves? Moral of it all: pray for your haters. Like I said earlier, hating generates from insecurity or a lack of knowing purpose. And instead of us being satisfied with labeling everyone as a hater, how about we take a different approach, praying that they will ultimately find their true identify in Christ, so they might be made whole. And look DEEEEP within yourself as well. Could it be that you love the praise and exaltation of man, and when you dont get it from the ones you want it from the most, you label them a hater? Hmmmm, you think about that! 

Until we meet again, CHEEKY CHOOWWW ;) 

The Meaning Behind 31 Roses and Daisies

The Meaning Behind 31 Roses and Daisies

Hello everyone. As you can see this is my very 1st post *Cheeses with SUCH excitement ^_^*. I literally sat here for like 10 confused minutes trying to find the PERFECT words to put together to make sense of what I really want to say smh lol. Well any-who, I STRONGLY believe that behind everything there is meaning. I'm an analytical type of person, so whenever I'm watching or listening to something, or see a design or anything someone created the 1st thing that comes to mind is "Hmm, I wonder what he/she was thinking when he/she decided to do this and that". Some of you are probably wondering why I picked the name I picked for my blog (and if you really didn't care, well, I want you to =p). The 31 represents Proverbs 31. I chose Roses and Daisies not only because I love flowers, but because there is symbolic meaning behind them. The red rose as we all know is associated with love, remembrance, and PASSION (I loooove me some passion) and the passion I'm talking about here is the passion associated with PURPOSE (what God placed each of us on this earth to fulfill). The Daisies on the other hand symbolically represents purity, innocence, loyal love, beauty, patience and simplicity (which I am a HUGE advocate of and believe every woman in the Kingdom of God should clothe themselves with along side the fruits of the Spirit Galatians 5:22). There you have it. I didn't want to just throw any name together, rather I wanted there to be a beautiful meaningful meaning behind it. And because I want my readers to have a feel of who I am, I saw it fit to formally introduce to you: 31 Roses and Daisies . ENJOOOYYYY =) ♥